"Honesty is the best policy"
Be honest, no matter how painful, difficult or traumatizing, you both will be live far better lives!
Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom – Thomas Jefferson
To withhold honesty from your partner is to add another brick in the wall between you and he, instead strive to tear those bricks down by owning your mistakes, admitting wrong doing and relentlessly pursuing the truth no matter what. There will be times where telling the truth will be hard, extremely hard and those are the time it is the most important. Be willing to risk your relationship in the pursuit of truth while checking the greed, vindictive, self-centered, narcissistic shadow that lives within all of us.