"I like my shame straight up and honest."
Without shame humans are psychotic, with it we are pitiful, embrace the suck.
The lack of shame is often admired by those beat down by it but those people are wanting to simply moderate shame as a person void of shame is themselves not a person at all but an animal inhabiting a person’s body. The best way to deal with shame is head on, confront it, take it on, right your wrongs and ensure that you are not beating yourself up too much. While our goal is to be somewhere in the middle, we are all broken, that is part of being human so embrace the suck that comes with this condition and make the best of it.